After reading Stephanie Faris' post Regretting Parenthood I had to comment here as the points she makes are so valid in my own life. I am not a parent. I don't intend to be a parent. But for some reason it is assumed that I will be a parent. Now, I'm not saying I won't change my mind; I'm not saying I will - I don't know, I can't know. But I know that where I am now emotionally and mentally, I don't want a baby. In the same way that I know that I don't want to get married. This doesn't stop me from being in a loving relationship and being happy. The way I see it, not have a marriage certificate probably won't make much difference in my life at all. Of course, I can't guarantee that I won't get married. I'm fully aware that I might change. But it's the fact that everyone assumes that I'll grow out of it and soon enough will want to be a wife and a mother.
What happened to feminism people? To me, feminism is about choice but it still seems that if you don't choose to follow the 'norm' in society then there is something wrong with you - that you're weird. Personally I don't care if you have kids, I don't care if you don't. I don't even care if you're one of those (in my opinion) idiots attempting to do both fully and completely. I'm not saying it can't be done but I'm not sure it can be done and there still be space in your life to be yourself and actually be happy. We only get one life so we might as well enjoy it. So why can't I enjoy my choices without prejudice? It's not like they really effect the majority of the population. Everyone deserves to be able to live as they want (you know, as long as it's not hurting anybody - so no, I'm not condoning murder etc) and to be happy.
I won't judge you (unless you are a close friend and your choices really are making your life miserable) so please have the curtesy to not judge me or anyone else. You don't have to agree, you don't have to like it - but something I remember my mum saying is 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything' and I totally agree with this. It is a motto of life. There is no need for meaness or judging. And remember that you can't know everything that person thinks and feels so in reality, you don't have any right to comment.